Jason and I met at a networking event about a month ago. My interest was definitely piqued when he said, after only having talked with my friend and me for 10 minutes, that I was the type of person who cared very deeply about what other people thought about me. He was right. My strengthsfinder (http://www.strengthsfinder.com/home.aspx) says that my top strength is significance, the desire to feel important to other people.
We met again several weeks later at another networking event. There we talked briefly and he said he would sign up for a free coffee. We e-mailed back and forth for several more weeks before we finally were able to get together at Bread Co.
Jason recently purchased a business that teaches sales training, called The Rubicon Institute (http://www.rubicon.sandler.com/). When we met he went into great depth about a lot of the psychology behind human nature. He drew me a column with an I on one side and an R on the other and explained that everyday we have multiple roles we play: commuter, husband, wife, employee, boss, subordinate, etc. Most of use live in those Roles (the R side). There are a few people who live on the I side, Individual. Individuals have these different roles but they don't let performance in these roles define them. So, when they have a bad day at work, it doesn't affect them as profoundly. I VERY much live on my R side. He went on to explain quite a bit more about Ego States and how we react to others through these. Lastly, we delved into Life Scripts and how we manage our lives based on these scripts we've devised for ourselves. For example, "I can't be as successful as other people" because maybe a parent or teacher said that to us at one point as a child. It was all very fascinating and I think we spent over an hour talking about this in detail.
We talked for a length of time about how he found himself as the owner of the Rubicon Institute, but unfortunately, that portion of my recording has been lost. Jason, if you read this and would like to share some details in the comments, it would be appreciated!
Jason was in the Navy for several years where he traveled all over the East, from Australia to Russia to Japan. He'd traveled a lot around the U.S. as a kid, but had never left the country and had no idea what he wanted to do when he got out of high school. "I lost a job, lost a girlfriend, lost the apartment, had to move back in with mom. I picked up the phone book and called a recruiter and said 'I want to leave'. And I was literally, six months later, standing in front of a ship at 19 years old."
Now, Jason spends his time networking, managing his new business, and teaching a Communications class at Maryland Heights Community College (where he met Michael from Coffee #5!). In regards to communications, Jason recommends keeping a journal of things that happen to you each day and your challenges. That way you can look at it and remember how you have progressed and overcome.
Jason and I parted ways after an incredibly interesting and informative meeting, with plans to meet again soon.
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